Reviewed by Russell Ilg
“SAYING IT OUT LOUD” SCREAMS TO BE READ
So many outstanding memoirs feature a backdrop in grief. “When Breath Becomes Air,” is the first that comes to mind, but I guess you could throw the likes of “Tuesdays with Morrie” into the mix as well. Purchase Here.
SAYING IT OUT LOUD belongs in that conversation. The widow in question is Amy King, and her book covering a year in the life of losing her superman husband in an Army Reserve training accident, leaving her to raise their seventeen-month-old daughter alone, still short of her 30th birthday, is the embodiment of human resilience in general and a young woman’s triumph over tragedy (which happens to be the book’s subtitle) in particular.
“Ma’am, I’m following behind an ambulance that has your husband in the back.”
With a sledgehammer of an opening line like that, we know we’re about to board an emotional roller-coaster and had better belt ourselves in. Amy pulls no punches in taking us along for the ride, tracing her journey over the twelve months that followed getting a phone call that changed her life forever. But she’s not asking for our tears or our sympathy. Instead, she charts the new path of her life with remarkable frankness, saying out loud what we all need to hear about the aftermath of suffering an unspeakable tragedy.
You’ll never move on, but you have to move forward. I don’t get hung up with leaving all of Andy’s things exactly as he left them. Some people may, and that’s fine if it makes them feel better, but it wasn’t for me. Accepting the new life helps honor the one I lost.
Or . . .
It was so wild to me that Adalyn was having her first little picnic at her dad’s grave, not when she’s fifty, but when she’s two. It might well have been the first burial ever to feature lollipops, and that made me angry.
That’s tough stuff, the kind of life lessons ordinarily learned the hard way. In that respect, the book is a cautionary tale aimed straight for those of us who’ve never received the kind of fateful call Amy received, but know it could come anytime the phone rings. She’s not so much standing on her soapbox as sitting at her kitchen table, inviting us into her life with the knowledge that we, too, someday may have to find the strength and resilience to overcome the unthinkable.
SAYING IT OUT LOUD is a raw, revealing, and remarkable journey through the pain of loss and challenge of rebuilding. Amy King’s year-in-the-life memoir is a testament to one woman’s ability to rewrite the rules of her own story, told in bold and breathtaking fashion. An instant classic destined to take its place alongside other time-tested tales that celebrate the enduring power of the human spirit.